How to Have Fun Again When You Forget How
There are days when I feel like I’m a fun sponge in the negative sense. If the kids are having too much fun and getting too rowdy, then it is up to me to tell them to calm down and soak the fun out of the room. Ditto for when my husband wants to buy something not in our budget.
I wasn’t always the “fun police”. Just the opposite in fact.
Among my friends, I used to be the carefree one for many years until I got married, settled down and had kids. I was adventurous. Two times I went to Europe by myself to travel for many weeks (I met up with a group when I got there). And, I even went to a Writer’s Retreat where I knew no one.
I’ve had many travels and adventures with my best friends. In other words, I was FUN.
I had dreams that having a family of my own would be one long day of doing crafts (with no clean up) and making elaborate Martha Stewart worthy dinners (with no dishes!) in my picture-perfect clean home. Rarely does that come to pass, instead it is usually a lot of scolding to pick up the place, put away your stuff, bring over your dishes, etc.
However, I’ve realized this is just life. And, a blessed life at that to have a family to take care of day in and day out. I’m the one who needs to change the way I look at things.
So, I’m giving myself permission to have fun again! I figure it is like a muscle and I just need to work it out a little bit more.
The real problem is I am afraid in all the living above, I may have forgotten how to. I’ve researched some ideas to give me (and maybe you?) some ideas for having fun again.
Ideas for Having Fun again as an adult:
Plan a spa-day (ooh – pick me, yes!) either at home or at an actual spa.
Go to a movie you want to see – not a kid or action flick unless you really like them! Try this one for some Women Power!
Take yourself shopping (groceries don’t count) and just look for things for you.
Go to the library and read all the magazines for free and with no guilt.
Take a walk and just commune with nature and enjoy the peace and quiet.
Find an old CD you love to sing to and blast that baby!
Before the kids are out of school, take a day off and just stay at home, relax in your PJ’s and binge watch your favorite shows.
Pick up a hobby you haven’t touched in years – sewing, cooking for fun (not product), writing, reading, scrapbooking, etc.
Go on a field trip close to home to a place you are interested to learn more about.
Take a virtual tour of someplace far away you’ve always wanted to travel to or a museum you’d like to visit. Google Arts and Culture is a good place to start.
And, now it is your turn.
If you find you have been put in the role of “fun police”, then go and prove to yourself that you are still fun – I promise you are. You just need to work out your fun muscle every now and then so you don’t lose that part of yourself forever!
You get bonus points if after doing something fun for yourself and you share doing something fun with your husband and/or kids. I hope you have a fabulous time!
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Stephanie White says
So true. Thanks for the reminder. I often think I’ve lost my fun factor. Up to me to keep it up:)
You still have your fun factor! But, you are right that we all need to keep up the fun factor. Use it or lose it!