The Power of Friendship
Recently, I went on an overnight fall getaway with a few of my friends. It was a wonderful weekend of shopping, laughter, relaxing, and sightseeing. When I left home, I wondered if I should really be taking the night away from my family to recharge my batteries and was I being selfish in doing so?
However, what I find every time I return from one of these trips, is that I have more to give when I come back than I did when I left. In this season of gratitude, I am eternally grateful for my friends.
I am very fortunate to have a large group of friends who I have known for 30 plus years now. They are my tribe, my history, and my fortress when the world gets to be too much.
My friends are my tribe because even though I don’t have any sisters by blood, they chose me and I chose them to be like a sister to each other.
They are my history because they know all of the details about my life over the past thirty years and I know theirs. We have been through first jobs, first loves, marriages, a few divorces, the births of our children and the deaths of parents, illness, job loss and betrayals.
We have stood witness to each other’s highs and lows. As a group, we have been able to hold the other up when they were weak until they were able to stand on their own again.
Most importantly, my friends are my fortress when the world is too much. I know I can count on one of them to answer the phone or a text when I’m down and need reminded of what I already know.
I can go to them for safe harbor when I feel like I’ve been wronged or when I’m worried about the future for myself or my family. And, when I’m lost, they have all of the years of context to say this is who you really are. You will be fine. You will find your way again.
Value of Friendships
Some women can be very competitive and try to tear the other down to feel better about themselves. I’ve never understood this. As women, we have to help each other. There are enough things stacked against us, we need to lift each other up and be there for one another.
The value of friendships is not something to take for granted, and I’ve been guilty of that in the past. I have had seasons where I’ve gotten lazy and self-involved and took for granted that which I was given in the name of friendship. And, I’ve tried to apologize for this and take ownership and make it right.
I tell my daughters, if you want a friend, you have to be a friend. You have to show up for one another and invest the time in being a friend. If you do this, you will be rewarded amply over the years as I have been.
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